online therapy for adults throughout virginia & West virginia
You’ve been hard on yourself long enough
Specializing in anxiety, perfectionism, depression, grief, and therapy for Christians
Carrying more than you realize?
Maybe what brought you here already has a name, like anxiety, perfectionism, depression, or grief. But underneath those, there's often something quieter doing a lot of the driving: shame. It's probably been with you since long before you had a word for it, convincing you that you're not good enough, or that people would run the other way if they really knew you.
What you went through growing up could have happened at home, at school, with friends, or at church. Looking back, you might think, "It wasn't that bad." Still, part of you knows it's shaping how you feel, relate, cope, and see yourself.
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Every email answered, every item on the list checked off, the pantry set up just right. Slowing down might sound nice, but it also feels uncomfortable, maybe even a little scary. When getting it right has become how you feel okay about yourself, it makes sense that letting go feels so hard.
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Maybe you keep replaying the calls you didn't make, the dinners you didn't plan, or the evening you didn't go over. Regret can quickly turn into blaming yourself, as if you should have known what was coming. Underneath that anger is often love, grief, and an old voice saying you should have done better. You can honor them without carrying that blame forever.
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Before the word no even leaves your mouth, the worries start. Will they be mad at me? Will they think I'm lazy, or that I only think about myself? Maybe growing up, doing for others was how you got noticed, or keeping the peace was your job in the family. It makes sense that your own needs feel like a burden, and you can learn to make room for them without the shame.
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You can have people who love you and a life that looks good from the outside, and still feel like something about you falls short. Maybe you can't even explain where that feeling comes from. Often it's an old belief, picked up long ago, that you have to earn your worth and never quite can. That's usually shame setting the bar, and it's something we can get to the root of together.
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You’ve done the Bible studies, said the prayers, tried to have enough faith. It still feels like you'll never measure up. That gap between what you believe and how you actually feel about yourself can be exhausting to carry.
I believe you deserve more than just getting through the day
Hey! I’m Holly
I help adults get to the root of why they never feel good enough, so they can stop just coping and finally heal what's underneath. I won't hit you with psychobabble or pretend coping skills are the whole solution. Together, we'll explore the old wounds and protective patterns driving what you're feeling, so you can make sense of your story and reconnect with yourself. I bring a lot of heart and energy to our sessions, along with honesty, curiosity, and the occasional laugh.
How I can help
Support for what’s showing up and what’s underneath
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Racing thoughts, replaying conversations, and the pressure to have it all together can make it hard to ever relax. Often, that anxiety is tied to a deeper fear of not being enough. We'll get to what's driving it, without telling you to just stop worrying.
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What if it were okay to empty half the dishwasher, clean part of the kitchen, or send a document with a few typos and margins that are a little off? When doing it all perfectly is how you've learned to feel worthy, even small things can feel impossible to leave undone. We'll look at where that pressure started and help you find some breathing room.
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Maybe you're showing up for work and family but feel empty inside, like you're watching your life from far away. Sometimes that heaviness comes from an inner voice that keeps saying you're not good enough. We'll get curious about what's underneath it, instead of treating your symptoms as proof that something is wrong with you.
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Losing someone hurts, and it can hurt even more when you're angry at yourself for what you did or didn't do. That anger often turns into shame, keeping you stuck in the same painful questions. Together, we'll untangle the grief from the guilt, so you can miss them without beating yourself up.
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Faith can be a source of comfort, and also a source of shame. Messages you absorbed at church may have left you feeling like you'll never be a good enough Christian. You don't have to choose between your faith and your healing, and we'll work through it without judgment or easy answers.
How it works
You don’t need the perfect words to reach out
1. Reach out
Send a note through my contact page about what's bringing you here. You don't need to know exactly where to begin.
2. Have a free 15-minute call
We'll schedule a relaxed call to talk through what you're experiencing, what you're looking for, and any questions you have about therapy with me. No need to have your whole story ready.
3. Begin therapy online
If it feels like a good fit, we'll schedule your intake, usually within two weeks, and I'll send everything you need beforehand. From there, we'll meet through Upheal, a secure online platform, and begin making space for what's been feeling heavy, confusing, or hard to hold.